The Weight of Child Pornography

You can read this article on Malay Mail.

TRIGGER WARNING: This post about might be disturbing to some. I urge you to prepare yourself emotionally beforehand. I apologise for some graphic explanations, however I believe that child pornography is an issue we need to tackle head-on. It is the least that we can do for the victims and their family.

Conversations about pedophilia and child pornography has been rife on Malaysian Twitter this past week thanks to someone making it known that convicted child porn offender Nur Fitri Azmeer Nordin has returned from UK. Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM), Bangi gave him a second chance to continue his studies.

It only makes sense that many Malaysians are cautious and wary that he is now a free man among us, considering the weight of his crimes. Regardless, there were many Malaysians who were eager to jump in defence of him. This really baffled me.

Whether we should grant child porn offenders and pedophiles a second chance is a moral debate that I have no authority over, hence I will not talk about that. I also refuse to give this man any more time of my day. What bothers me the most about the debacle are the people defending him by saying “He only watched child porn, he did not make any videos.” (Even though this has been refuted.)

It is true that some believe not all of those who watch child porn can be diagnosed as pedophiles (but it is also a strong indicator of pedophilia). However, watching and distributing such content is considered just as vile as the act itself.

Many people who spoke up in defence of Nur Fitri Azmeer Nordin also say that child pornography is just the same as watching adult porn. What these people fail to grasp is that child pornography, unlike adult porn, does not involve consent. It is not just another fetish. It is not just another porn genre. The children in these videos were exploited, manipulated, and abused. The harm done to the victims are lifelong.

Child pornography exists because there is a demand for it. As long as there is someone watching it, it gives incentive to perpetrators to create more content. The horrific part about child pornography is that it does not only involve penetration, but a myriad of other vile acts including incest, bestiality, physical abuse, mutilation, and many more.

Some say “Whatever you can think of, it’s already out there.” You can refer to the degrees of child pornography as listed in the COPINE scale rating system.

Due to this, Thorn has been trying to redefine child pornography as “child sexual abuse material”. You may refer to their website for more statistics and information.

We get enraged whenever we think about pedophiles or child sexual abuse cases. We cannot fathom how traumatic it must be for the young victims. We shiver at the thought of what has been done to them.

When I talked about this, I received a lot of messages from people telling me about their experiences and their trauma as sexually-abused children.

Now, imagine knowing that there are people out there who would enjoy watching them getting abused.

That is what child pornography essentially is.

They are children getting recorded. A chance at life taken away at an extremely young age, some even with their umbilical cord still attached. Their abuse is shared to millions of people who enjoy watching it. Some are even paying good money for it. Forever embedded on the internet for the world to find is their lifelong trauma.

If you still don’t think watching child pornography is harmful, that it’s not simply “just watching it”, I encourage you to read about the case of Matthew David Graham a.k.a. Lux, the curator of Hurt2TheCore. There is also the case of Peter Scully and Daisy’s Destruction, which will expose you to the things people do to produce child pornography.

I would like to end by urging you to watch this speech that given by Blake Lively 2 years ago at Variety’s Power Of Women luncheon.

Blake Lively talks about the gruesome reality of child pornography

It should not take someone to be a parent to finally care about this issue. We should never allow our children to grow up in a world that has been desensitised by the existence of such an inhumane industry. We should never underplay the harm inflicted through consumption of child pornography.

Should we give sexual offenders against children a second chance? Well, that is up to you to decide. But authorities who decide so should do better and at least keep them under surveillance in order to ease the public’s worry. We don’t need to wait for another victim before we decide to take this seriously.